So it’s the beginning of September and most of us will be starting to get into a routine of some sort after the Summer holidays.
We may have had some time to think about what we would like to do over the next while in order to make improvements in our lives and to move on.
The key to making any kind of change is taking action! We can talk about doing things all we want, and I think the talking part is necessary in the initial stages, but ultimately, it comes down to taking action. So here are some things that may be useful for you to consider when deciding to move forward.
‘Get over it’, as the Americans like to say. Yep, that’s it. Get over life. Stop making life more complicated than it is. Everything happens for a reason, and when one door shuts, another one opens. Once we stop resisting life and live it, we will see dramatic changes take place. Learn your lesson, get over it, and move on.
Don’t give up. Good things come to those who do not give up, not to those who wait! Change requires action but those changes won’t usually happen overnight. If you fall, get back up again and again.
Become less sensitive. Sometimes changing ourselves requires seeing ourselves as others do. If you are the kind of person who makes others feel the need to walk on eggshells while around you, then maybe they are on to something. Our own thoughts about ourselves are always the most important, but delusional musing is a great obstacle to change.
Give up self defeating talk. This is key because so many of us are talking to ourselves in a negative way all of the time without realising. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You’re better than that.
Give up your limiting belief. In coaching we talk a lot about limiting beliefs and how you might be getting in your own way. Instead of thinking about what you can or cannot do, think about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly! Acknowledging what they are is the first step.
Give up complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy; no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
Give up your need to impress others. Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly. Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They’re so busy with pleasing and living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, and need, and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’ distract you from your path.
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