Over 2,000 families in Tipperary are caring for loved ones living with dementia

September is World Alzheimer's Month. It’s a time to raise awareness and understanding about Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia and encourage people to ask questions and learn more about a condition that affects an estimated 2,457* people and their families in Tipperary.

Open dialogue about the disease can reduce the stigma around dementia and help families feel more empowered when caring for a loved one living with dementia.

As an organisation that cares for hundreds of people diagnosed with dementia all over Ireland, Dovida has developed helpful tips for those caring for a loved one living with the condition to help reduce the stress of what can be a very challenging situation for all concerned.

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Where to start?

“When a parent, partner, or loved one is diagnosed with dementia, it can feel like everything changes. Routines, relationships, and responsibilities can be thrown into flux, and for many families, it’s hard to know what to do,” Danette Connolly, Director of Clinical Governance at Dovida, said.

“It’s important to have three key principles in mind when caring for a loved one living with dementia,” she added.

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Establish a consistent routine. Predictability reduces confusion and anxiety.

Use simple, calm communication techniques. Speak slowly, avoid arguing or correcting, and validate the person’s feelings.

Support independence where possible. Encourage your loved one to participate in small tasks to maintain their dignity and confidence.

What to do if someone living with dementia refuses care?

“One of the most difficult challenges relatives of someone living with dementia face is what to do if they refuse care,” Danette continued.

“Refusing care often comes from fear, confusion, or a loss of control, but there are a few strategies that may help,” she explained.

Use a gentle approach. Never force care, offer choices and time.

Try a different caregiver. For example, a loved one might refuse help from a family member but accept it from a professional.

It can be difficult to accept but try not to take it personally if it does occur.

Build familiarity. Introduce caregivers slowly and consistently so they become part of the routine.

Reframe tasks. Instead of saying “time for your shower”, try “let’s freshen up before breakfast”.

“It’s important to remember that you’re not doing anything wrong. Refusing care is a common issue people caring for loved ones with dementia face, but it’s manageable with the right tools and support,” Danette added.

How do you get respite care?

“Everyone needs a break, especially family caregivers. Having time to recharge can improve the quality of life of both the caregiver and the person living with dementia,” Danette said.

“Dovida can help by providing flexible, in-home respite care, whether that’s for a few hours or a few days. Other options are available depending on your location and what type of support is required,” she added.

Some common respite options include:

Respite home care. A professional caregiver comes into the home to give you time to rest, recharge, or do something for yourself, like meeting a friend for coffee or a walk.

Day programmes. Safe, engaging locally run day centres for people living with dementia.

Overnight or short-term stays in care homes or hospitals. These are usually pre-arranged for a specific period.

“Caring for a loved one with dementia can be a difficult but also rewarding experience. It’s important not to wait too long to seek help if it’s becoming overwhelming. Early support is crucial to maintaining a caregiver's mental health and allowing them to continue supporting their loved one to live their life as best they can in the place where they’re most familiar – at home,” Danette concluded.

On average, Dovida provides its clients with 12 hours a week of HSE-funded home support. However, the HSE often funds up to 21 hours a week and Dovida does provide a number of clients in excess of 25 hours a week of HSE-funded care.